Failure. Such a powerful word. And also a terrifying one. Our society is driven by success in many different forms. Success in our careers, our social lives, our families, relationships, our finances…the list goes on and on. But what happens when you don’t succeed? It’s human nature. No one is good at everything.
Even the most successful people in the world have failed at something. More than once. But how do we define failure? There a big failures and little failures. I think we need to refine the word failure. If we start thinking of failures as learning opportunities instead of NOT being able to do something, it gives us a whole new perspective on what it means it fail.
I know what you’re thinking. Failures as learning opportunities? That’s what successful people say to people who fail to make them feel better. If you’ve heard or read something similar before, I would ask you to ask that person how many times they failed at something before being successful. The answer would be a lot.
Everything we do can be treated as a learning opportunity one way or the other. If you feel as though you are falling short of what you want to achieve, take a step back and think about what you have learned so far. What are you doing right? Focus on the positives! No matter how small. What can you do better? Come up with a plan to improve areas you think you can do better on.
Setting goals is an important aspect of being successful. It’s important to have a good grasp on your goals and what you are trying to achieve. There is this immense negative connotation associated with not achieving goals. But, why?! Instead of focusing on the outcome, try focusing on the process. So, you didn’t achieve your goal this month. I encourage you to take a teeny tiny step back and think about the following things:
What were the positive things you were able to do this month?
How close were you to achieving your goal?
What did you learn so far?
What do you need to change or do to get closer to achieving your goal?
Our society is so focused on instant gratification. I fall victim to this idea too! I get an idea in my head and I want it to happen NOW. Sometimes it’s possible, but most of the time this notion is unrealistic. Let’s say your goal is to get promoted at work. You’ve been trying to achieve this for the last few months and it’s just not happening yet. From the outside it seems as though you’re failing and not achieving your goals. This is NOT the case!
What have you done to help try and achieve this promotion? Have you made new connections within your workplace? Completed projects on time or ahead of time? These small things might seem insignificant, but they are accomplishments along the way to achieving the bigger goal. They are successes that are building the bridge to the main show i.e your promotion!
So, not getting the promotion this month is not a failure. If you take a step back and look at the bigger picture, which is super hard to do, you will see that you are in fact successful. Mini successes are the building blocks to achieving that BIG goal.
Get away from the “rat race!”
Try applying this logic to other aspects of your life! Feel like you are failing at your weight loss goal? It’s very easy to get defeated and give up because you feel as though nothing is happening. Take a step back and think. Do you have more energy now versus before? Are you eating better? Are your moods more positive? If the answer is YES to even just one then you my friend are not failing at anything! We so often get sucked into this “rat race” mentality that it’s really hard to just sit back and enjoy the ride.
We are all trying to get through this thing called life. Everyone has good days and bad days. Sometimes we have to take a breath and remember all of the things we have accomplished so far. No matter how small or insignificant they may seem at the time.
The only person you should strive to be is a better version of yourself.
Stay positive my friends!